Merry-Go-Round

People repeat patterns and go round and round on their very own merry-go-rounds. Look around and assess your friends and family and you'll quickly notice that year after year, they fall into the same ruts. Many people complain about their patterns of money problems, relationship woes and weight or health issues but very few actually set out to get off of their merry-go-rounds. What does it take to break patterns and to set yourself free? It takes a lot of work and determination. Now don't deceive yourself thinking that your patterns don't take work to maintain. Your old patterns may be what you know and may not seem like a lot of work but those patterns are tiring, frustrating, depressing and cause a different type of emotional drain. Breaking patterns means taking risks, treading into unknown territory and facing your own and external resistance. Let me give you an example. I have friend that complains endlessly about her career and dating problems. For over 25 plus years, she ends up in the same dead end dating relationships and continues to struggle financially. Part of the pattern is denial because she does not take a good hard look at her patterns. She creates excuses and blame about her situation, instead of breaking out of the endless pattern she created. Each excuse just spins her merry-go-round into another cycle. In addition, she creates an illusion that her situation will improve but without the necessary work to get there, she is just living in a fantasy world. She has created a pattern where she doesn't really change and her image is of something that isn't real. Sometimes, the toughest denial is with those who have some knowledge of psychology or spiritual lingo, because they can solidify their patterns believing their spiritual or psychological world reinforces staying stuck. It doesn't. Spirit guides laugh at excuses. Regarding psychology, how many crazy psychiatrists and therapists have we all crossed paths with. That's because it's easy to hide behind the psychology cover when everyone has patterns to break....everyone! Yes...I am no exception. I too have many patterns I have broken and many more to address. You know you have broken patterns when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and realize how much you've changed. If however, you look in the mirror and you feel stuck and like you keep going in circles, then you have not yet broken free from a pattern. The choice is yours because you have free will. The first step...recognize that you are on a merry-go-round, the second step....work at breaking the patterns every day. It takes conscious thought and effort. The work is worth it though, because freedom is much sweeter than going around in endless circles on a merry-round. Just remember that a merry-go-round is fun for the first ride but if it keeps spinning endlessly, you start to feel sick and you get tired of staying in one place, seeing the same sights over and over. It's time to get off. Break the cycle and start to crave seeing the rest of the amusement park. Life is like one big carnival, there is so much waiting to for you experience and see. What are you waiting for?