I was reflecting about love and patience this morning. We are all working on things, as we are all in lesson. I certainly know that patience is something I have in my work, since change is often slow. As a therapist, I sit and watch as people avoid making changes or when they do make changes (or when changes are forced on them), it takes time to adapt, learn and acclimate. I know that I have had to learn to be patient with myself, since I often want changes to happen immediately, and although some changes can happen quickly, other changes take a lot more time. I guess the lesson I was reflecting on this morning has more to do with patience in my personal life with friends, and family. The Virgo in me gets impatient and says, "come on, get to work and lets get this done." That's often how I approach things, but others do not. I have to resist judgement on that (and its hard) because others process things more slowly and methodically. My boyfriend and my oldest son are slow processors. They think about change for a long time. My son doesn't really like change, but once it happens, he adjusts pretty quickly. My boyfriend, on the other hand is a Cancer, and he thinks about changes for a long time, and changes when he has to. Most people only change when they have to. I too have had changes forced on me and ultimately, it was for my highest good. I realized today that I need to be more patient with others. Growth takes time, like a flower growing from a seed. Just because you cannot see visible change doesn't mean change isn't happening. Sure, some people may be stuck and stagnant. They may not be growing in any visible way, but being stuck may be their lesson. Perhaps being stuck will ultimately teach them something valuable about choices. Change is a choice, being stuck is a choice, and both require a great deal of patience. Its funny, I think most people wouldn't realize that I can be impatient, because I often exude lots of compassion and patience around me. Trust me, I do have large stores of patience but when I cannot sit by and watch my kids and boyfriend stall, avoid and make excuses any longer, then I push. I push in love, but I do push. I won't stop pushing, since we all help each other on our journey and my job is to inspire change and growth in others. I will however forge ahead with an ultimate respect for patience. I have been inspired lately by some growth in loved ones that happened overnight, yet those changes actually took years to nurture. Change takes time. change requires patience and love is the water that nurtures others to trust enough to change. Change is always possible, just be patient, loving and kind and watch your relationships grow in ways you never thought possible.
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