Divine Communication

“The sexual embrace can only be compared with music and with prayer"...(Marcus Aurelius). Okay, maybe I have a dirty mind but sex is an important topic that once again, I must write about. Now dirty isn't a fair word about sex because there is nothing more connected and pure about a good sexual connection. How did dirty ever get associated with something so beautiful. Well, perhaps is was when some of the beauty was taken out of sex when it was demeaned, marketed, sold and manipulated by religions and society. Society has really done a number on sex that hasn't sold such a beautiful version of it. Religions rant that sex is bad, evil and a sin, yet so many god fearing people keep on doing it. Why do people have to feel so bad about doing something so natural? Well, once the image of sex got twisted, then it became a war....good girls don't, bad girls do. Such propoganda really. People aren't taught to honor sex and to connect with the sacred essense that sex was truly meant to be. Sex is a form of communication and when it is based on respect and integrity, it is self expression at it's best. Unfortunately though, I come across too many people who outright reject their sexual selves for a variety of reasons. Guilt and shame are often the culprits for sexual self rejection. Those issues are clearly a reflection of deeper emotional issues as well as a reflection about how much you value yourself. Sex is a powerful energy however and guidance and care must be used when harnessing it. Men out there use outright tricks to seduce women all of the time. The male dating guru basically directs men on the how-to's of a quick seduction. Women need to be savvy to this. Women want sex too but often can be tricked by the seduction and overwhelmed by their own hormones and end up with men that aren't so good for them. Sexual energy is a gift that must be explored and respected really. Thanks to technology, sexual energy can now be sent via texts and e-mails. That certainly can be a fun way to communicate but I have found through dating and in discussing this with many men and women, that the technology is the intimacy....or another barrier to real intimacy. I can't tell you how many profiles I've read that issue warnings that they are looking for more than a texting relationship, which shows that many are coming across individuals all too comfortable with disconnected relationships through cell phones. Hey, technology should enhance intimacy not be the pretend intimacy. I'm not trying to discount the fun from flirting via cell phones but at the end of the day, I want more than a pretend boyfriend. Personally, I love to taste a real kiss and caress after intense playfulness. Texting cannot deliver on that. Sexual expression for me is a direct reflection of my emotions, depth of feelings and passion that I experience in connection with another. The extent of that expression and how much I let go, depends on how safe I feel. Each person reflects their own beliefs, fears and self worth in how they express or hide their sexual selves. Overall, we have our physical bodies as a way of expressing the essence of who we are. From that perspective, sex becomes a sacred act, reflecting the depth of two souls coming together to create a unique imprint. Not all sex is sacred however...it depends on the intention of the individuals. If people do not consider themselves sacred or value themselves, then sex will be shallow and possibly degrading. Sex can be an act of self love as well as sharing that love with another but if you do not feel worthy of love, then you may reject everything loving that comes your way. "Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself"...(George Bernard Shaw). The very word creation is interesting since every single one of us was created during an act of sex. That sums up the divine power of sex, that it creates life. It can also create pleasure and bliss once it is approached with the respect it deserves. “There's nothing better than good sex. But bad sex? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than bad sex"...(Billy Joel).